Men


Abortion affects men.  The website, www.menandabortion.info, can give you information, and give you a chance to express your experience anonymously. 

Most say they do not have easy time afterwards.  Whether they chose it or not, they often feel helpless and angry afterwards, and they feel less trust in women.  Nearly all say it was the worst experience of their lives.

After abortion, men’s anger can lead them into drug use, alcoholism, violence, and employment difficulties.  Men can have a hard time with authority, with women, and with commitment of any kind. 

Whether you pressured, helped out of a sense of “support”, went awol, sat on the fence, or tried to stop it, abortion affects you, and Project Rachel’s programs are for you. 

In our retreats and groups, men find healing and renewal of relationships, even when they are just coming to support someone else.

If you are in a relationship with someone who has had an abortion, you are bearing part of the burden, even without knowing it. 

If you are the child of a mother who aborted, you have been hurt and you suffer some effects that you never knew were connected to abortion – insecurity, unease with your parents, fear of becoming a father, lack of trust in women. 

If you helped or advised a friend or relative to abort, thinking it would be a solution for her, you may have had a gnawing sense of incompleteness or guilt – a hollow inside.  You can feel whole again.

Maybe you feel a sense of failure because you tried to help someone avoid abortion, and failed.  Maybe you suspect that someone you care about has had an abortion, and you can’t help her recover.  

You may have lost a male friend after he participated in abortion, then changed. 

The frustration and uncertainty that follow any of these situations can give rise to chronic anger and insecurity.

Men find a renewal of their manhood, their strength, their trust, and their freedom when they step up and take responsibility for an abortion, even if they are simply accepting the support and fathering role that another man rejected.  You can spiritually adopt an aborted child, and give women a witness that men can be strong and responsible. 

The presence of a man at a retreat or group is very healing for women who have had abortions, and enables them to forgive and to recover a postive attitude toward men.

If you sowed many wild oats, you may even have lost a child that you are unaware of.  Pray.  Ask God if Project Rachel is something he wants for you.  Call 210-342-4673.